Shayla Bell Do Tell

I’ve notice that most of us take life experiences for granted, or maybe we don’t really pay attention to the lessons that are being taught to us. 

I’m going to share 3 things I learned last week. Hey, you may learn something as well. 

1) My friends are the BOMB.COM

 I don’t know if people even say that phrase anymore. . . . I don’t care, I’m using it because it’s all I got, Lmbo. Anyway,  I learned over the years that’s you should surround yourself with the people you strive to be like. Well, I got a revelation this weekend. My friends actually possess the qualities that I want in the different areas of my life and they genuinely love me enough to help me grow! I was blessed and feed spirituality, financially, mentally, and literally this week. Lol. I got a lesson in every area that I’m growing in. I’ll share a few. 

The millionaire taught me that it wasn’t all about money but love and humility. 

The personal trainer taught me that I am “fine as wine” and that my beauty radiates! 

My married friends taught me about real partnership, love, and sacrifice.

The minister taught me that the real lessons and blessings from God are not always done under the roof of the church. Sometimes you have to meet people’s basic needs so they can see the glory of God. 

A good girl friend taught me that laughter, wine, a inspirational movie, and pizza is some of the best medicine to rejuvenate the soul. 

A good guy friend taught me that people will make time and go for what they want if they see value in it. 

I told y’all my friends are some beast!!! LOL. 

2) God always has a plan. 

So I usually do the same routine. Monday through Wednesday I’m a nurse during the morning hours but every day I work my business. This Monday was different, no nursing assignment! It was very odd because I’m always booked. Well, for those of you that don’t know Atlanta, a protion of one of the major highways is out! Its hot mess. . . Ok! Anyway that’s the way I have to go for my assignments, so I leave super early to detour.  I turn on the news that morning to find out on that same highway further south, a tractor trailer crashed and there was a chemical spill! WHAT, yall,  I would have been stuck like chuck for 5 hours!  Now,  I’ve been working on my road rage. . . You know that scripture about being slow to anger, I need help in the area of driving, LOL. The Lord spared me, my gas, my time, and anxiety. Lol. Won’t he do it? 🙌🙌🙌🙌

3) Soooo. . .  you might really have some haters. Who would have known?!?! Seriously!

So honestly y’all. I am really focused on personal development, building my business, and continuing to grow into the woman God wants me to be. I don’t think about who’s not happy about it. In my head, everyone should be happy to see others succeed. Especially people you know!

So I learned this weekend, that old friends and associates may have just a tad bit of hate, grievance, or anger toward you for your decision to develop into a better person. When you see them the tension may be so thick you can cut it with a knife!  My final thought about it is . . . . Oh well! 

Here’s the deal. Some people may have those feelings because your growth makes them uncomfortable and reminds them of what they should be doing. 

Could also be that they were never really your friend to begin with and they just can’t hind it anymore. Once again I’m not mad. . . 

Or they are just be plain ole miserable. Misery loves company, don’t join it! At the end of the day there is absolutely nothing you can do about any of these issues. Just continue to grow and be kind. Maybe one day they will change that mindset. 
So I hope you learned some things from my week and I hope it made you think about some experiences and lessons you learned. Talk to you soon!

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– Shayla Bell Do Tell

Hello world!!!! Yes, I’m speaking what I want into existence, start practicing ASAP! It works!!!!!! Anyway, I really hope you all had a wonderful Christmas!!! Mine was awesome and brings me to the subject of my blog. . . Relationships!!!  My family and friends are freaking exceptionally outstanding!!!! Every single gift I received for Christmas literally aligned with my dreams, business, and current goals. My family and friends believe in my vision which means they believe in me and that counts for a lot. Why am so pumped about it? Because I can’t lose with a solid foundation and support system. Relationships are vitally important in life and business. Like the old saying goes, you are what you eat. . . . Well the same goes for your social life, you are who you hang around. Think about it.  Ever been around someone angry and next thing you know, you are angry too and don’t even know why! Then find yourself trying to figure out why everything else is going wrong after your mood changes . . It’s because of the atmosphere, your surroundings!!!!! Are you surrounded by negative influences, dream killers, unmotivated people, or discouraged people? If so, RUN  FOR THE HILLS. . . GET KEKE AND THEM! Lol. Seriously, that mess is toxic. I’ve noticed my entire circle has changed over the last year. I cut off unmotivated, negative, and just plain broke down people that didn’t see a need for change. Now, I’ve attracted people in ministry,  life coaches, successful entrepreneurs,  etc. These people are making a positive impact on the world, and leaving legacies for their families.  Who doesn’t want that for their life?

Surround yourself with people who see you the way God does. For the person you will become. Not for who you are now and your current circumstances. Surround yourself with people who are more successful, wiser, experienced,  or maybe doing it bigger and better than most. This blog was short but don’t miss the importance.  Change your relationships, social circle, and surroundings. Create a positive atmosphere, and watch your life change for the better.

LOVE YOU GUYS! Shayla Bell Do Tell. 😉

So, after a sharp tongue lashing from friends, lol,  and a lot of thought I have decided to restart my blog. I admit,  I lost focus! It happens to the best of us,  but I’ve been seeing some crazy things out here that I need to share. I learn from all of my experiences so I need to continue to share them! Not only will I be sharing life experiences and inspiration as I did previously.  I will also be incorporating some things from my event planning business, The Bell Experience. So hold on tight. . . Your in for a crazy ride! Lol.

Ok, yes! I name this next blog entry ” Twerk Some”, yes I did it.  . . And I know you wanna know why. Lol. I also know for my ATL family, your minds went straight to the Ying Yang Twins songs. Lol. Ok, come back! LOL. For the past few months my friends and I have been living on purpose. We have been going to different social events,  networking events, and parties. Of course attending all these events we meet a plethora of people. I’m not one to judge, I accept people for who they are, but some people becoming really strange. . . .  So a few weeks ago a friend of mine and I attended a great party, mature crowd, caught up with a few old friends,  meet some new ones. That always good right? I thought so too. Until my friend meet a young lady on the way from the restroom.  The young lady attended the party alone, so my friend decides to let her hang out with us for a little while. Seemed innocent enough, until men start to come around. So one of my guy friends comes to the table and the young lady turns into a dog in heat on viagra! She literally start twerking on him in the middle of our conversation! At first I thought it was a fluke! I looked at my friend and asked “Is this a joke?” I sat there with my mouth wide open watching,  in a state of confusion thinking who did we invite to the table!  Oh No! Come to find out she made no mistake, she wasn’t done yet.  Another guy came over and she did the same thing! It was like the twerk attack I saw the news and I was in the middle of it! What in the world was going? There was clearly a lack of self-respect, self esteem, and self worth. I’m no dating expert, but I can pretty much guarantee that a real man is not attracted to what I call the twerk attack. Ladies,  please don’t belittle yourself or compromise your morals for the attention of others. Is not worth it!
Unfortunately this is not the only twerk attack I have witnessed. Apparently it’s become an epidemic! It’s spreading like wildfire! So just the other night, a few of us went out for dinner and drinks. While waiting to be seated we hung out in the bar area. I saw these two young ladies dancing near the bar, nothing unusual, so we made sure we stay out of their way so they have space. They were a little tipsy, but they seem like they were having fun. Lol. While waiting, this young man started a conversation with me. We were in pretty close proximity,  it was the loud music was playing with a lot of people around. We wanted to make sure we can hear one another. Basically he was in my personal space, lol. So as we were conversing out of the blue one the young ladies that was dancing came between us and literally started twerking on him, yes once again in the middle of our conversation!  The twerk strikes again!!!! Lol. I looked at the guy and said “she obviously wants your attention, I’ll let you have that”. He looks at me and says “unfortunately I know her”. Wow, he use the word unfortunately. Obviously this is not attractive to him. He moved away from her and left her there twerking the air and we continued our conversation. Ladies, attention seeking is not attractive. ”

Thirst

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is not attractive.  The women in my story were about mid to late thirtys. . . . Too old for this foolishness.  Ladies I wish we understood who we are. We are Queens, we are worthy, we are like precious gems. Once we realize who we are we will not compromise our self worth. We are worth more than what’s  between on legs, and if a man doesn’t understand that he is not the one for you. I’ve personally been studying the Proverbs 31 woman. She was regal, intelligent, business minded, but also took care of her family and home first and foremost. I promise you she was not twerking on random men in public, I’m just saying.  There’s absolutely nothing wrong with these characteristics and striving to exude them daily. The point of my story is that once you realize who you are and your value you will attract what you really want and need!

Love you guys, thanks for reading Shayla Bell Do Tell. 🙂

Ok ladies seriously,  let’s do better. We are looking more and more un-lady like.  It’s NEVER too late to start over. We are Queens, we should expect to be respected and respect ourselves.  I’ve been seeing some things on Facebook and in public that are just wrong. Not judging.  . . .maybe women just don’t know how worthy they are and that they see deserve better. I won’t go in on everything I’ve been seeing. . . .I’ll just talk about last night.  Lol.

Last night me and a good friend of mine went to a popular club here in Atlanta.  Nice crowd, good music,  beautiful scenery. Until I literally saw this young lady’s entire behind (butt). . . .I’m talking the whole crack,  from the bottom to the top, from the back to the middle and around again!!!! She was twerking and pulling her dress up with NO underwear.  Her friend was hunching the pole, legs wide open for everyone to see her glory!!! Both my friend and I are in the medical field but didn’t plan on becoming gynecologist last night. I think we are qualified at this point.

When did we start to think that we have to get attention in this way, that it’s cute. What you advertise to men is exactly what you gonna get.. . And we wonder why some men act they way they do. We are giving it all away, no work or assembly required.  Lol. Ladies, you are more powerful, worthy, and beautiful than the media and the world wants you to believe. Read about the Proverbs 31 woman. She was the bomb. Entreprenuer, wife, mother,  leader,  intelligent, etc. We need to get back to when we cared about what we look like, our reputation,  respect ourselves,  strive for more than attention. Let’s do better ladies and let’s take responsibility for our sisters.

We live  in the time of Social media and “reality tv”. We see people posting all these material things, hanging out with famous friends,  claims of riches, notoriety, and fame.

Sometimes we make the mistake of wishing we could have those “things”, look like them, wishing we could be with that man or woman,  or even wishing we could have that person’s life. But do you really know that person or are you in love with the glitz, glam, and that image. Do you really know what’s inside of them. . . Do u think God gave them something he didn’t give you?

I’ve meet people, even dated one,  over the past few years that embodied these same characteristics.  . . . Lots of “friends” that were celebrities,  a little time on TV or the airwaves,  post on social media of things they don’t really own. I’ve witnessed lots of people do anything to be close to them.  . . But did they know that those were just mask they wore, empty vessels looking for something to fulfill them, just like the people chasing them.

Don’t compare yourself to others, no matter how good it looks. Be grateful for what you have and that spirit of gratefulness will increase you. It will attract the right people to your life, provide the right opportunities for you to be successful. Then you will be able to encourage and show people how to really succeed.

Don’t get me wrong, I like the finer things in life and I plan on attaining them. Lol.  My cousin always jokes and calls me bougie, at least I think its a joke. . . lol,  just kidding. But seriously at the end of the day it’s about the lives you impact. The people you help grow and go to the next level.

Remember your just as good, special, talented,  educated, and worthy as anyone else. If you want a certain life style,  go get it. But do it the right way,  with a good spirit, and good intentions.  🙂

So it’s Memorial Day! First thank you to all veterans that have sacrificed and served our country.

It’s Memorial Day weekend!  Here in Atlanta everybody and their momma was out!!! I’m talking about restaurants, bars and clubs packed like slave ships! Lol That’s a another subject. Anyway since I hit 30 the struggle is real! I will sit in the house,  drink my coffee, and watch my Martin re-runs. I’m too young for that! Or I’ll wait for someone to call and ask me out.  . . .do you hear the crickets? Right. I’ll be home coming up with a thousand reasons not to go. Where will I go, where do people hang, what if no one wants to go with me, blah blah blah.

This weekend I decided to do something different and I had a ball Friday and Sunday night! I decided to tell my friends what I was doing they showed up and we showed out! I made up in my mind, i was going even if no one came. Instead of sitting there waiting on something to happen, making a ton of excuses, I made a decision,  acted,  and my people came!  Man I made the move and God showed out. Everything worked out perfectly,  we even found free parking.  Lol.

I swear I can learn something from the simplest things. What I learned this weekend is until we make a decision and act on it, what ever we are believing God for will remain stagnant. Truly, faith without works is dead. I had been sitting waiting on some things to happen socially but fun doesn’t come to your door unless you  invite it over! Lol. It’s that simple.

What ever you are not acting on right now. . . Just do it! If it’s a job, school,  business,  making new friends, or a career change. MOVE ON IT! You never know what will happen.  . . You might just enjoy it! Now I have some more things I’m about to make happen 😉

I know  I’m not the only one but I frequently remind myself that I am good enough! As a single woman in Atlanta and in business sometimes life can be a challenge. I recently had two separate experiences.  I’ll start with business first.

I love to give people the opportunity to showcase their business, so every time I have an event I have vendors.  I know what it’s like to be a business owner so I don’t make my spaces very expensive. With that being said I had vendors who already signed up and paid for their space. A young lady approached me about a vendor table but she didn’t want to pay. She kept challenging me and negotiating but she wanted something for nothing.  Because I wouldn’t budge and wanted to be fair to my other vendors she decided not to participate at all, and basically told me she had better things to do! Excuse me then!!! Lol. But hey life goes on.

The event went on as planned,  it was excellent! All of the  participants and vendors were blessed! My frustration wasn’t about the money,  it was about knowing the amount of hard work and time you put into serving others is worth being respected! I want you all to know you are talented, educated, knowledgeable, and worthy.  Never give your skills, services, or business, away for free. You deserve to be compensated! Never let anyone sell you short!

Now when it comes to dating, LORD! Jesus be a fence! As a matter of fact Jesus be my rod and staff. LOL. Some men say the right thing but display something totally different.  Ex boyfriends are calling you with the same thing they said before . . . Tom foolery!  People don’t even know how to date anymore, they just want to “hang out”. Last but certainly not least. Women are expected to be the one to pursue the relationship now! The devil is a lie and the father of it! No, for real, he is. . .

Ladies, let me tell you something! (Sorry guys, I’m a woman,  so I only have one side to this story. LOL.)   You are worth a man’s time and energy. You are worth being pursued, you are beautifully and wonderfully made in God’s image. If a man wants you, he will be diligent in his pursuit for you. He will date you, and you will be his one and only. Don’t settle for being a number or a “side chick”. You are a gift, a jewel, a diamond.

Ladies and gentlemen,  know your worth. Don’t settle for anything less in any area of your life. You are predestined for greatness. 🙂

 Hello!!! I’m back!!!! LOL. So some of you may know but I am a event planner, yes in addition to being a RN and entrepreneur, I’m super busy. Somebody start praying! LOL. With that being said I’m either hosting my own event or working one. A few weeks ago I planned an event for a young lady. The life coach that spoke told us to learn to do be interdependent. I figured you all can put the two words together yourself, but I’ll still provide the definition anyway. . . . Just trying to help. Lol.

Interdependence is the mutual reliance between two or more groups (people). The reason I’m talking about this is because it really hit my spirit. I used to be so dead set on being independent. I mean, I would roll my head and eyes saying ” I don’t need anything from anybody”, “I’m good”, ” I am a strong independent woman”. Y’all know how we are, lol. But in reality nobody is meant to work alone or be alone. When I started doing business I learned quickly to add people to my team with strengths in different areas than my own. I learned that I needed mentors, people experienced in business, friends that just wanted to support, and friends willing to help me grow. In society we often hear the same message; “trust no one”, ” no new friends”, etc. I hope y’all don’t listen to that foolery. Surround yourself with people with goals, dreams, and aspirations. Not only that , surround yourself with people making things happen! It’s ok to let others help or to seek guidance. You never know what goodness people can add to your life. 🙂

I am super excited, this is my first blog post!! YAY! I started this blog for two reasons. First to spread a little inspiration and motivation. There is not much of that going around. Whether your on social media, watching the news, or reality tv. . . .we see and hear a lot of mess, LOL.  Don’t get me wrong, I’m no perfect Patty, which you will soon see. I watch and do all of these things too. I just want to tell my life stories, share with you what I learned, and hope I can motivate or inspire you through my life perspective. The second reason I started this blog because of the inspiration from family and friends. I always give them a weekly story. They laugh, look at me like I’m crazy, and laugh some more. BUT they always desire more. Because of this my cousin Zoe affectionately gave me the long nick name, Shayla Bell Do Tell! So sitting in church one day, it hit me, start your blog and name it Shayla Bell Do Tell!  Now here we are with the birth of my blog! I hope you guys enjoy it as much as I do.

On this blog I will be sharing a lot through life stories ,experiences, inspiration, and motivation. As a certified event planner, registered nurse,  and entrepreneur I’m sure there will never be a dull moment! 😜